I don't know about you but I only get to actually have a conversation with my dad time to time in recent years.
By the way, why am I writing this? Because I just watched The Ming Thing video made for Father's Day. I feel that Ming's Dad is very much like my dad except that my dad did not graduate from the University of Edinburg hahah.
Anyway, back to the topic...
My dad is a typical Asian Dad. He'd be a good standard for How To Be An Asian Dad.
Daddy has always been the provider to our family.
I remember my mom told me when I was a toddler, my dad always works till late night and I must give him a call to say goodnight before going to bed.
I have always been very very very scared of my dad because he always looks fierce and he is always quiet.
My dad is a quiet person, he doesn't talk much.
Anyway, I was really really afraid of my dad hahah don't ask me why, its just the power of Asian Dad.
The aura he produced is stressful for me to even breath.
I did not really talk to my dad until I study abroad in Adelaide.
I guess distance has improved our relationship but how sad is that? We only learn to show love when one is not by our side.
I remember during the Parent Teacher Day (to collect result card), back in Primary School - if dad attends this day I would be very nervous but I remember I was happy to see my dad come. Don't know why too.
To be honest, my dad did not get too involved in my schooling days, I don't remember he teaching me mathematics or what so ever, maybe he did and I don't remember.
But even if he did not teach me anything on homeworks, that is totally fine to me. Because he paid for allllllllll my tuitionsssss.
But I wished my dad was involved in my schooling days more and I guess I will be a different person today.
I lost track of my thoughts...always.
What I wanted to state in this post is that there will be a gap generation between my dad and I, that is for sure.
And thanks to Ming's video I suddenly thought this gap generation is good to be there. Can I say it is a beautiful accident?
Just because this gap generation taught me more about being thoughtful, kind, generous and simple.
The gap generation is there and as a child of my dad, I have to learn to accept it and learn from it because the life my dad had when he was a child was not easy for him, he did not get any privilege like me and you, he did not get to go to the best school, did not get to choose the subject he wants to study, did not get the latest sneakers and not all the good food I am having all this while.
Because of the difficult days, he had before when he was young, he appreciates more on what he has today than I do. Because he has come a long way to be who he is today and own what he has today.
I have to admit it can be quite tough to deal with the gap generations stuff but I guess we can't be selfish, try to think on his end, think thoroughly, why is he acting this way - you will find the reason because I do and you will just accept it just because deep down you do love your dad so very much.
I hope gap generation exist forever - I believe this will be a 'tool' to create more beautiful person.
Lastly, Happy Father's Day to my beloved Asian Dad. I love you so much.
This is something I will never say to my dad face to face - Asian Daughter.
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